Do you enjoy anal play or are you a person who I curious to experiment with anal pleasure? Then you should check out the Silicone Flexi Risque Ripples. This toy has some very nice features, including: a gradually increasing tip, various speeds and pulses for maximum pleasure – varying from soft and subtle to strong and steady, and a wide base for safe anal play.

The bottom of this toy is very flexible and moves independently, so you don’t have to worry that it will hurt you when you move and freedom of movement is important. The base is a larger than I like, but it is a very solid toy and looks long lasting. Also, it looks like you can enjoy vigorous play and it will be great. The graduated tip also helps the toy stay in place while you are playing and even if you decide to enjoy double penetration, the Flexi Risque will normally stay in place.

There is one thing that I didn’t like – the material this is made from is very smooth. That is normally a very good thing, but I found that made it difficult to screw the bottom on and off when you insert or change the batteries. But, that is a small thing. On another positive note – you can easily change from one vibration or pulse by pressing on the bottom of the toy.

If you’re looking for a toy that will go deep into your anus, you may want to look for something else since the insertable part of the probe is less than 4″. But it has a nice gradual slope and starts fairly small and gets bigger as it goes in deeper. The tip may be a little bit large for people who are just starting to enjoy anal play, but take your time and use plenty of lube and you can definitely enjoy this toy too.

Master Sexpert Tips -

• Use plenty of lube (Moist Lube or Moist Gel is a great choice) for anal massage. You may prefer the gel since it is a thicker consistency, but you can try several types to see which is better for you. Click the product names for my reviews for each and a list of all the Moist varieties.
• Be creative – this toy has a great shape and remember it will move with you and your partner, so don’t hesitate to move to get the most pleasure from it.
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
• If you want to share – clean your toys very well or you can each use a condom for your play and then clean the toy when you’re finished.
• Ladies and men — if you’re using this on your lady or yourself, never use anything in the anus and then move to the vagina without thoroughly cleaning the toy.

• Advanced Master Sexpert Tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy in your anus at the same time you use, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on the clitoris for the women. You can also use this toy in your anus, while having vaginal intercourse with a toy or with your partner.  A bigasm is also possible for men – slide this probe into your anus and stroke your penis or ask your partner to please you orally – at the same time. You will enjoy it

For more details – www.calexotics.com/p-23607-silicone-flexi-risque-ripples.aspx

• Self-contained probes with intense vibrations at the tip
• 10 powerful functions of vibration, pulsation, and escalation
• Flexible Silicone shaft bends and moves with you
• EZ grip base
• Smooth and soft satin finish
• Silicone (shaft) ABS with PU Cote (base)
• 3 AAA batteries
• 4” x 1.5”/10.25 cm x 3.75 cm (overall Ripple)
• 4.5” x 1.5”/11.5 cm x 3.75 cm (overall Triple)

Come on guys, I bet you would love to see your woman masturbate for you. Especially if you could watch her, without her knowing you were there. That would let you watch her do all those things that please her the most.

Any man I’ve talked to readily admitted that he would be totally turned on, watching his woman masturbating. Most also admitted they would have a really tough time not jumping in to help and that they would love to move in and give her oral sex to put her over the edge.

So we know you want her to masturbate, and you want her to masturbate in front of you. How do you get her to do it? Some women are cool with talking about masturbation, but other women aren’t comfortable getting themselves off and especially while someone watches. Whether she enjoys self-love or has never tried it before, watching her get off by herself is something that can entice both of you and make your sex life hotter. Here are some tips to help you convince her to masturbate – and more importantly, to do it in front of you!

Communicate With Her

There are some women who enjoy watching a man masturbate and especially when he wants to perform for her. But other women may find it hard to believe that you want to watch her. She may think it’s a crazy idea, so getting her to believe that the idea of watching her masturbate is a huge turn on can be difficult.

Next time you’re spending some intimate time together, tell her what you’d like to see. While you’re massaging her clitoris, tell her know how much it would turn you on to see her touch it. Start small and work your way up to the big stuff. She may only start out with letting you watch her play with herself a little. Maybe she could be more comfortable letting you watch her massage her breasts first – but work with her and let her know you appreciate everything she is willing to share with you.

On the other hand – she may be very turned on to find out you want to watch her. It is also a great way to learn exactly what she likes and what gets her off.

Tantalizing Talk

When she is willing to touch herself in any way – let her know you appreciate it and encourage her. Don’t nag her, but encourage her to do more. As she experiments with the idea of letting you watch, don’t hesitate to let her see that you are excited and turned on. It is very hot for a woman to know that she is turning you on.

If you’re touching yourself while you watch her, let her know you’re excited and how good it feels. Let her share your excitement. Be specific about what she’s doing that you enjoy – you should know your partner good enough to know how to talk to her, to turn her on. If not – start subtly and take your time using more spicy talk.

You need to make sure she understands that you’re very turned on because she is letting you watch her masturbate. You can ask her what she enjoy, have her explain what she likes and how she likes it. Or, you can ask for permission to tell her what you’d like to see her do. With a little practice, this can be very hot for both of you. Most important, make sure you both have fun. If she isn’t comfortable letting you watch, don’t push her. You can always try again later, but if you push it till she gets mad, it is unlikely she will agree to try it again.

Involved Her in Foreplay

You can include her while you’re giving her oral sex or fingering her. Reach for her hand and bring it to you. Then as you touch her, move her hand along with yours. You can start by brushing her cheek, tracing a finger under her chin, run a finger down her arm and move to cup her breast or tease her nipple. Move lower and run both hands over her stomach and slide her hand between her legs.

If you sense hesitation from her, move slower or focus on other parts of the body before moving between her legs. Go at a pace that she can handle. Again, if you rush her, it can discourage her. Maintain eye contact with her and let her look into your eyes. Let her see how hot it makes you. If she’s reacting well, you may move your body so she can feel how excited you are. Once she is comfortable touching herself, you can use your hand or both hands to touch other parts of her body. When she’s really comfortable, you can stroke yourself and position yourself so she can watch you.

Masturbate With Her

It is not a problem if you get turned on watching her and need to touch yourself. When she’s getting into having you watch, knowing she’s turning you on that much will likely encourage her to do more for you. Find a comfortable place where you can sit or lay and let her watch you, while you watch her.  If you prefer to be close while you each masturbate, lie close to each other.

At some point, you can ask her what she would like to see you do and what would turn her on even more. But always tell her honestly what you enjoy about watching her and how much it turns you on.

If you’re still having a hard time getting her to masturbate for you, touch yourself while you give her oral sex. Tell her how sexy you find her vagina. Let her know you enjoy licking, sucking and tasting her. When she believes you, it is likely she won’t be so self-conscious about showing your everything.

If there are times when one of you wants sex and the other doesn’t, lie close and hold the partner who is masturbating, is a great way to show your support for your partner and helps maintain the intimacy, even if you aren’t having sex with each other at that time. You may find that your woman won’t mind you holding her, but isn’t comfortable with you watching her at the moment. Show her that she can trust you and share her masturbation time with you – even before she lets you watch. That could be a good step toward helping her be more comfortable with you watching her in the future.

Sometimes the best way to say something is the way someone more literary than you has said it.  In that vein, here are some relationship quotes of note:

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
-Oprah Winfrey

“Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.” -Anthony Robbins

“Some people come into our lives and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.” -Flavia Weedn

“The act of forgiveness is the act of returning to present time. And that’s why when one has become a forgiving person, and has managed to let go of the past, what they’ve really done is they’ve shifted their relationship with time.” – Caroline Myss

“Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.” – Mark Twain

“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships – the ones that last – are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is… suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with” ~ Gillian Anderson

“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle

“The best and most beautiful things in this world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart.” – Helen Keller

“Where does the family start? It starts with a young man falling in love with a girl – no superior alternative has yet been found.” – Winston Churchill

“It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.” – Kahlin Gibran

“To love means to commit oneself without guarantee, to give oneself completely in the hope that our love will produce love in the loved person.” – Eric Fromm

“Man is a knot into which relationships are tied.” ~Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

“You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when its right, it’s the best thing in the world. When you’re in a relationship and it’s good, even if nothing else in your life is right, you feel like your whole world is complete.” ~ Keith Sweat

“Our greatest joy-and our greatest pain comes in our relationships with others.” ~ Stephen R. Covey

“Love doesn’t just sit there like a stone; it has to be made – like bread, remade all the time, made new.” – Ursula LeGuin

“Once the trust goes out of a relationship, it’s really no fun lying to ‘em anymore.” -Norm from Cheers

There’s a broad collection of relationship quotes for you.

Feel free to share any thoughts or reactions to these quotes.

For people who are interested in anal play, anal stimulation and anal toys – should check out the Booty Call Booty Rocker. One thing that I hear from plenty of people is that they want to “ease” into anal play. They may be curious but the idea of something big is a bit too intimidating. This is like the curious partner who wants to see if you like having your butt played with, intimately, and decides to subtly see if they can slide their pinkie into your anus.

People who enjoy larger items for anal penetration, you can also enjoy something small and stimulating, which can also be almost undetectable under your clothes. Do you like the idea of sliding an anal toy into your anus and being able to leave it in while you work or play? This could be the perfect toy for you.

One big complaint I’ve had with plenty of anal toys is that the base is just too large and its awkward. For anyone that has read any of my anal toy reviews – I always recommend being sure that you have a firm grasp on the external end of any anal toy. Any anal toys with a larger base or ends that you can hold onto – are much safer. You can definitely lose the mood if a toy is “lost” in the anus. A trip to the ER to retrieve anal toys, is not sexy.

About my complaint about awkward bases on toys – many of these toys have a base that is needed, but seems to make the toy difficult to use. That is one of my favorite things about this toy is that the handle which is needed, was designed in a way to slide between the butt cheeks and works well, without being awkward and in the way. The shape is also good about staying in place, while you enjoy play on other areas of your body.

The Booty Call Booty Rocker is very easy to use, just add a little lube on the tip and you can slide it into the anus. You and/or your partner can use the tip to stimulate various body parts. The Booty Call Booty Rocker I made of a very easy to clean material that can be in or out of the water. For ladies who like double penetration – this is a great anal toy you can use along with a vibrator or dildo for self-pleasure and definitely feel free to use this for anal stimulation along with your partner to stimulate multiple erogenous zones at once.

If you are curious and want to experiment with anal play and penetration, this is a good toy because of its small size. If you’re experimenting, the small head and gradual increase in size is very user friendly. The toy basically isn’t much bigger than an average adult finger.

Highly recommended, especially for: beginning anal play, men and/or women, for double penetration with a partner or toys, and for much more. Have you tried the Booty Call Booty Rocker or does it spark any idea? Feel free to share here.

Master Sexpert Tips -

• I recommend being very careful with anal toys to be sure they don’t slide in too far – or slip out of your fingers and “get lost”. You won’t have that concern with this toy. While some anal toys have strings, this one has a hole for one finger and the shape of the toy will protect you from “losing” it.
• Use plenty of lube (Moist Lube or Moist Gel is a great choice) for anal massage. You may prefer the gel since it is a thicker consistency, but you can try several types to see which is better for you. Click the product names for my reviews for each and a list of all the Moist varieties.
• Be creative – this toy has a great shape, so turn it and use at different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
• Advanced Master Sexpert Tip – if you’d like to experience a bigasm, use this sweet toy in your anus and use another toy, your fingers or your partners fingers or mouth on your clitoris at the same time for the women. Use this toy in your anus and another toy or preferably, your partner for vaginal penetration and stimulation. A bigasm is also possible for men – slide this toy into your anus and stroke your penis or ask your partner to please you orally – at the same time. You will enjoy it
• If you want to share – clean your toys very well or you can each use a condom for your play and then clean the toy when you’re finished.
• Ladies and men — if you’re using this on your lady or yourself, never use anything in the anus and then move to the vagina without thoroughly cleaning the toy.

Men and women hate when the object of their attention rejects them. We all know the stories of men who had their egos dashed by being turned down for a date. What if you could interpret her body language and actions to determine if she is interested in you? Read on for tips…

Every Time You Turn Around She’s There

She turns up everywhere you go; you pass her in the hallway at the store, she “accidentally” bumps into you etc. Get a clue — she’s trying to let you notice her and is giving you a chance to make the first move. The problem with this move is that most guys are oblivious to it and throw away a lot of chances to get together.

What Are Her Moves Telling You

Body language is a great indicator of what a person really thinks and feels. Nature gives humans a great set of non-verbal flirting signs that we express subconsciously when we are interested in someone. Here are some almost sure signs that she flirting:

• She points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders.
• She leans toward you while talking.
• She plays with or tosses her hair.
• She fidgets with a piece of jewelry or strokes the stem of her glass.
• She keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks.
• She mirrors your body movements
• She smiles when you check her out.

She Always Makes Time or Has Time For You

A woman will make the effort to be available if she is interested in you. She quickly answers your calls and willingly accepts your invitation to get together. If she is busy on that day, she will probably say something like, “Tonight I’m busy, but tomorrow night would great!“

She Wants to Know More About You

A woman who’s interested in you wants to know everything about you. She asks about your family, your background, and your taste in things like food, music and movies. For example – she may say something like “You like concerts too? We should go to a concert some time.” This is a clear sign to move forward.

She’s Jealous When You Talk to Other Women

This is a big sign. An interested woman watches her competition like a hawk. If you notice her fuming when you joke around with other women, she wants to be more than her friend.

These are some of the most obvious signs that she wants you. Just one of these signs may not be enough but if you notice several of these signs, go ahead and ask her out. What are some other signs you’ve noticed that you would add to this list.

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Are you curious about what all the buzz is about rabbit vibrators? Have you tried other toys, but never a rabbit? Whether you are a first time user or an experienced user, you will enjoy the First Time Jack Rabbit. Although, I think the first time user will enjoy it more.

This has a 1 1/2” diameter shaft with rotating pleasure beads for added stimulation and they are reversible. The vibe also has 3 vibration settings which you can use in a dark or lighted room, since it has glow in the dark controls.

It also has the typical “rabbit ears” for clitoral stimulation. This is a great rabbit to try for the first time and if/when you find that you enjoy the rabbit design, you may want to upgrade to a similar toy – and there are many to choose from J

Master Sexpert Tips

• Use plenty of lube for clitoral, vaginal, or especially anal massage
• Be creative – this toy has the usual “rabbit” shape, but you can still turn it and use at slightly different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations (you have 3 vibrations, pulses etc to use) and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water. But this toy is not waterproof, so be careful with the water.
• Experiment with the rabbit ears to see what sort of stimulation you prefer. You may want to place the rabbit ears directly on the clitoris, maybe on either side or some combination. You can also move the toy – so don’t feel that you have to leave it in one place unless you just find the perfect spot. Just like a partner’s tongue or fingers, you may prefer the ears move around the clitoris, or you may like to brush them across the clitoral area like windshield wipers. Like I said above – be creative and see what you like the best.
• You may enjoy turning the vibe around and continue to stimulate the vagina with the shaft and you can tickle or tease that area between the vagina and the anus. You may ignore that normally, but give it a try on women and men – with a little practice, you will discover why it is called the million dollar spot on men….

Similar Toys

• http://shop.shedyourinhibitions.com/my-first-jack-rabbit.html
• http://shop.shedyourinhibitions.com/waterproof-jack-rabbit-vibrator.html
• http://shop.shedyourinhibitions.com/waterproof-ultra-wabbit.html

For more information – http://www.calexotics.com/p-23608-first-time-jack-rabbits-.aspx

• First Time™… Velvety Soft Pleasure Products Designed for First Time™ or Experienced Users.
• Make it a Memorable Experience with the First Time™ Collection
• The perfect Jack Rabbit® for the first time
• 3 powerful functions of bunny vibrations
• Reversible, non-jamming rotating silver pleasure beads
• Glow-in-the-dark push button controls
• EZ load battery pack
• TPE (rabbit) ABS with PU Cote (controller) ABS with Silver Plating (beads, accents)
• 4 AA batteries
• 5” x 1.5”/12.75 cm x 3.75 cm (shaft)
• 3” x 1.25”/7.5 cm x 3.25 cm (rabbit)

I remember back in high school, there was a specific girl who made a big deal every year about her new school clothes. Each day for the first couple weeks of the new school year, we had to hear about each new article of clothing. And I admit, at the time I was self conscious about it since 99% of my school clothes came from the local Goodwill or the local hospital thrift shop. That was long before it was cool to recycle – hmmm, we were going green with my school clothes But I digress.

I remember how I felt about her bragging about the new clothes and how I felt self conscious about my “gently used” clothes. But I also remember that she had very few friends, didn’t really stand out in any way and had many insecurities. Even then, I had a feeling that was her way of making others think she was “better” than them.

But – how is that different from the scenes we see of people stampeding, rioting, starting fights and in some cases – hurting other people, to get the latest pair of Nikes? Now I admit that I definitely prefer to go barefoot and take every opportunity not to wear any shoes and while I like to have attractive shoes, being comfortable is my priority. I never wear heels since I’m just over 6′ tall – but I do know there are many beautiful shoes on the market. They just don’t find their way to my closet

So – here’s what I wonder….

Why do kids feel they NEED the latest Nikes?

Why do families who are struggling to pay the rent/mortgage and pinching pennies to buy groceries – feel it makes sense to buy overpriced sneakers for their kids?

As an example of how out of control the mentality is – this is a current auction on Ebay. The funny thing I noticed is that the ad says “New with box: A brand-new, unused, and unworn item (including handmade items) in the original packaging” and then below that it says “This Foamposite model was first previewed on the feet of Gentry Humphrey at the Sole Collector x Penny Hardaway event in Las Vegas.”

New shoes are great, attractive shoes are great. For ladies, sexy shoes can be great – although I believe that they do all kinds of damage to feet. But let’s dig deeper…

Why do you feel you need the latest Nikes or the latest sexy shoes? If you’re buying and wearing them to make you feel better about yourself — just understand that there are better ways to develop real and healthy self confidence, self esteem and respect for yourself.

Very soon, I’m launching a new 12 week program for people who want to develop a real and healthy love, respect and acceptance for themselves — and its the kind of respect that you can develop, no matter what kind of shoes you wear…  http://www.the12steppingstones.com/love-yourself.html

What are your thoughts?? What do you think are the reasons why people feel they need the latest expensive shoes? Of course, its not just shoes, but that was in the news today…

Riot erupts at Florida Mall during Nike All Star collection sneaker release event: MyFoxORLANDO.com

We all know people that seem to flirt as easily as they breathe. Are you one of the people who believe the art of flirting is something that you either have or you don’t? Take heart – that isn’t true at all.  The art of flirting is something that can be mastered by anyone with an interest in learning how to flirt.  It’s one of those things you can learn with plenty of practice and is learned from the inside out. Every person masters the art of flirting differently. However, there are some basics of flirting which might help you to find the flirt inside and bring her out to play.

The first thing to know about the art of flirting is that it can be done by anyone.  You don’t need to be the most attractive person in the room (and always remember that beauty is a subjective quality) and you don’t have to be the smartest, most athletic or most outgoing either.  The art of flirting is designed to bring out the wonderful qualities that are unique about you and to let them shine so others can be drawn to them.  That means flirting begins on the inside.  Your first priority is to determine the qualities you like about yourself and you will use them as a basis – flirting is an art of quiet confidence.

Next you need to know what to do to let others know that you’re a terrific person. Flirting is primarily non-verbal.  You have likely heard the eyes are the windows to the soul and you will use your eyes as a starting point for flirting.  Have you ever glanced around a room when you were bored and then unexpectedly caught the eye of a stranger? Did you hold their gaze for a few moments?  Most people find this causes their heart to race and the mind to start working, wondering what caught that person’s attention.

People are drawn to others who are attracted to them. So, you can convey your interest on many levels with the different types of looks you give people.  The art of flirting incorporates many different types of gazes.  If you are in a public setting and just want to catch the eye of a stranger – meet their gaze, hold it for a few seconds, shift your gaze to something else and then glance back at them for a few more seconds.  This quickly conveys that you are interested in flirting with them and by watching their reactions you can tell whether or not they share your interest.  More aggressive flirting is done through giving the object of flirtation a look, which says, “I am thinking dirty things about you”.  Sometimes this is done with a lingering gaze, sometimes with an up-and-down-the-body glance and sometimes with a stare, which suggests that you are hungry and looking to devour them. Obviously, you won’t use these aggressive flirting techniques with everyone.

In addition to eye contact, the art of flirting makes use of other types of body language.  Positioning your body in a way that shows you are open to communication is crucial to the art of flirting.  Subtle touching is a big part of flirting, but it should be done cautiously.  You should read the other person’s body language to determine whether they are welcoming the signals you are sending out.  You’ll be able to tell if it’s appropriate to touch their arm or lean your leg against theirs while talking.  The art of flirting consists of a combination of conveying your intentions while reading the signals of the other person. You can learn to read other people’s body language with practice. There are also a number of articles on this site about various aspects of body language.  A successful combination of flirting and body language stem from a casual confidence in your own self-worth which makes the art of flirting enjoyable and fun.