Some sex toys just feel so good – in your hand, against your skin, in your body and any other way. This is one of those toys. If you haven’t felt a “pure skin” toy – you should. It feels very much like the real thing. The toy I reviewed is a Pure Skin Bendie. The exterior material does have a great skin feel to it and it also looks like a penis. The shaft can also be bent before or during use and depending on how vigorous the play is, it will move and bend with your body.

Since the toy bends, you can bend it before use if you want to use it  to massage your g-spot or your man’s prostate. You can also bend it to make it easier to reach the clitoris, the g-spot, the perineum, the anus of any other area.

I really like the life like look and feel. If you really want to test the feel before use, you can stroke it and I have a feeling it will remind you of a penis. It comes in ivory and brown – so you can pick the look you prefer J

The Pure Skin Bendie has 10 functions – so you have various vibrations, pulses and escalation patterns – depending on your current mood or to change along with your mood as you play.

Master Sexpert Tips –

1 – This toy can be used vaginally or anally. But NEVER use a toy, finger or hand in or around the anus and then move to the vagina – without thorough cleaning.  If you want to avoid stopping to clean the toy and still be safe, use a condom for anal play and take it off and still wash it off before any vaginal play.

2 – Be sure to clean it thoroughly before and after work and good old soap and water works.

3 – You can play with the bendability and use it on your g-spot. It can stimulate the g-spot but its not as easy to reach the g-spot as some other toys.

4 – Remember if you experiment with g-spot stimulation – use the restroom first and be prepare for it to feel like you still have to go, as you and your partner continue to stimulate this area. But that does not mean you should stop – it means you’re getting closer to an awesome orgasm.

While I like this toy very much – there are a couple of concerns.

1 – The toy does seem to clean up very easily, but even after using a lot of soap and water, I found that the surface has an unusual feel. However I will continue to talk to friends and others to determine if this is okay.

2 – Also – the “skin” on this toy is shaped to look lifelike, but I also discovered a spot on it where the “skin” created an air bubble. Its not something you feel when using it, but my concern is about the material tearing over time. But I won’t know that for a while.

3 – The controls are on the bottom and very easy to work. This position for a partner to use the toy on you is very convenient, but it is also very easy to turn it off accidentally and who wants to turn it off early J

Overall I think you will really enjoy the Pure Skin Bendie if you enjoy flexible, penis shaped vibrators and definitely check out the feel J

Two similar toys that you may want to take a look at:

http://shop.shedyourinhibitions.com/10-function-pure-skin-stud.html

http://shop.shedyourinhibitions.com/pure-bendie-10-function.html

  Life-like, plushy soft, unscented, maintenance free dual density, Pure Skin® multi-function dong

  Quiet, flexing vertebrae allows bending in any direction

  10 sensational functions of vibration, pulsation, and escalation

  Powerful motor positioned in the tip

  EZ push button control with state-of-the-art memory chip that resumes last function used

  Automatic on/off button

  TPR (dong) ABS (control)

  3 AAA batteries

  7”x 1.5”/ 17.75 cm x 3.75 cm

As people, there are certain things we want and need in our lives and there are limitations and boundaries that we need to identify and we need to enforce for our well-being. There can be times when we assert our boundaries and we may strike a negative cord with friends, co-workers and family members. So – how can we be assertive and look out for our well-being while maintaining positive and healthy relationships?

Be Clear and Avoid Confusion

Let’s start at the beginning, you need to know what you need and want in your life. Second, you need to be clear in your own mind about your boundaries. When you’re thinking about these things, be open and honest with yourself.  Once you understand your needs, wants and boundaries – we need to convey those details with people in our lives.

Explain Your Boundaries to People in Your Life

In order to respect your boundaries, you have to tell the people in your life about them. Obviously all the people don’t need to know all your boundaries. For instance, your boss or co-workers don’t need to know about your sexual boundaries. And your partner won’t necessarily need to know the boundaries you set for co-workers. You can have various types of boundaries, such as physical, emotional, mental, sexual and so on. Think of these like limits on what you will and won’t do and how you want people to treat you. As you explain your boundaries, notice how it makes you feel – if you explain something and it “feels” wrong, you should rethink that.  Setting boundaries and insisting that people respect them is a way of respecting yourself and protecting yourself.

Practice Makes Perfect

Like all things in life, setting and maintaining your boundaries requires practice. This also means that you will often have to remind people and maybe yourself, of the things you need and want. These are great times for you to stand up for yourself and remind people there are limits that they need to remember. It doesn’t require that you be rude or mean about it, but kindly remind people of things you need them to do or things that you want to limit. It’s a productive experience for each of you and help you maintain that respect for yourself.

Respect is a Two Way Street

While you are working on your love and respect for yourself, remember that respect works both ways, so you need to show respect for your friends and family and respect their boundaries too. Maybe you can help them to understand and accept their own boundaries.

However, if you’ve explained reasonable boundaries and your partner, friends, family or co-workers won’t respect that, you should consider that seriously and determine if they really care about you and respect you. That doesn’t mean you would act disrespect to them, but you will likely want to limit your time around them.

I studied to become a Love and Relationship Coach and Master Sexpert at Loveology University, which was founded by Dr Ava Cadell.  I figure if you want to study, you should work with the best in the business.  So I was anxious to see her educational video on oral sex.

For a preview – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UFauZ3zSXPQ

I know Dr Ava has been eager to create educational DVDs on sexual topics, so I was anxious to see this DVD set when it became available. This is a 3 DVD set – one focuses on couples, one on oral sex for her and one on oral sex for him. The set has over 3 hours of content, interviews, tips, and over 90 techniques.  I also noticed that you can go into the me and jump directly to specific tips you want to review or share…

So many people have questions, concerns, worried and issues when it comes to oral sex – both giving and receiving.  Many people are shy about asking and others have no idea what to ask or who to ask. Well, if you’re looking for details and you want honest and clear cut answers, Dr Ava is the person to ask.

In the first DVD – you will discover about 30 techniques for couples to use when they are giving and receiving oral sex. From the ways to get turned on and build up to oral pleasures – to various positions, techniques to use in these positions and other items around the house that you can incorporate into your oral sex sessions.

One DVD shares tips for giving oral sex to your woman and the last gives tips for giving oral sex to your man. Imagine an entire hour for your partner to learn about various ways to spice up oral sex for you and ways to tantalize and turn you on.

Whether you are very experienced in giving and receiving oral sex, if you’re learning the techniques or want to learn new ways to satisfy your lover – you need to check out this 3 DVD set.

This DVD set is not intended for minors and you will see couples engaging in oral sex. But it is done very tastefully and watching the DVDs will give you all kinds of ideas, along with tips and suggestions to make oral sex a favorite sexual and intimate activity for you and your lover. Remember a picture is worth a thousand words – and this video I worth far more than that.

You have to admit that companies come up with some entertaining names for their toys and the Silly Rabbit is a good example. Anyone who is familiar with sex toys and especially vibrators – knows there are a wide variety of rabbit designs. But most of the ones I’ve reviewed had a fairly thin or short shaft on them. For ladies who prefer a bit larger shaft, you will enjoy this one. It is not huge, but it is a good size. There is also a curved tip on the top to stimulate your g-spot.

The Silly Rabbit is made of silicone so be very careful not to use a silicone lube with it. The Rabbit has 7 different function – so you can shift between vibrations, pulses and the escalating pulses — find the one you like and change them as needed to maintain or raise your arousal level.

For the ladies who enjoy rotating pleasure beads in the center of the shaft – you will enjoy the Silly Rabbit. This vibe has a variety of interesting features – and it offers plenty of different options and we all like options don’t we?

You can enjoy the rabbit ears to tinkle your clit, enjoy the shaft – with any of the various speeds or pulses, use the g-spot tip or turn on the rotating beads below that curved tip. Or you can enjoy any combination of those choices. You can also turn the toy so the rabbit ears can tickle your perineum – I bet you will enjoy that too. But if you turn the toy around, the g-spot tip won’t hit the right spot.

Master Sexpert Tips

• Use plenty of lube for clitoral, vaginal, G-spot or especially anal massage
• Be creative – this toy has the usual “rabbit” shape, but you can still turn it and use at slightly different angles to see which feel better for you.  Let your partner try many variations (you have 7 vibrations, pulses etc to use) and let him/her know what you like better. Then use it on them
• Be sure to thoroughly clean all toys before and after you use them. This is really easy with toy cleaner or soap and hot water.
• If you are a woman and you have enjoyed G-spot massage before, or if you want to try it — this is a nice toy for an intense G-spot orgasm ladies. (Don’t forget to go to the bathroom before you start.)
• G-spot tip – even though this can make it easy, you still need to know where the G-spot is located. If your partner is using their finger to massage your G-spot, they need to lay their hand with the palm up, insert their finger(s) in your vagina and reach inside a couple of inches. They need to move their forefinger in a “come hither” way and they will be very close to the G-spot. When stimulated, it feels like a small patch of corduroy – that is the area to stimulate.  With this toy, you need to move it so that the “stimulator” tip reaches that spot. Even if you have to “play” to reach the right spot, you will be stimulated.  If you feel like you have to go to the bathroom – you’re in the right area — don’t stop now… go for it. Now – you want to stimulate that area with the vibrator.

• For people and especially for women who are new to G-spot stimulation — it feels like you need to pee, when the G-spot is stimulated – use the bathroom before starting your exploration and stimulation. Don’t stop because of this feeling, its just an indication that you’re on the verge of sheer bliss — go with that feeling…

Information from the CalExotics website – http://www.calexotics.com/p-23464-silly-rabbit.aspx

• Bulk Weight: 12.5(oz) / 0.35(kg)
• What’s in a name? There’s nothing silly about what this rabbit can do!
• Pure Silicone, premium massager with intense vibrating rabbit ears
• Gently curved G-spot design
• Soft, smooth and unscented Silicone
• 7 incredible functions of vibration, pulsation, and escalation
• 3 speeds of shaft rotation with reverse rotation function
• 3 rows of non-jamming pleasure beads
• Easy-to-use control panel with illuminated LED lights
• 4 second power off button
• EZ load battery pack
• Silicone (vibrator) Stainless Steel (beads) ABS (controller)
• 3 AA batteries
• 5”x 1.5”/ 12.75 cm x 3.75 cm (shaft)
• 2.25”x 1.25”/ 5.75 cm x 3.25 cm (stimulator)

This is something that bugs me and I wanted to write a post about it. But this is so well written that I had to share it and in the 7 years since this was written, the problem has only gotten much bigger.

As with ANY professional — please verify that a person is qualified. Being qualified to advise or coach you about love, relationships, intimacy and sex — is about more than just having a lot of sex. I’m happy to explain the training I’ve had and I do understand the limits of what I should and should not offer to clients — just claiming to be a “sexpert”, “a dating coach”, a “love coach” etc — does NOT guarantee that the person actually did take the time and put forth the effort to study, research and learn more about all those intriguing relationship and sexual topics. For people who would like to get an idea of the training I did complete – you can visit this page (http://www.loveologyuniversity.com/CourseDetails.aspx?CourseID=22&a_aid=litekepr) to learn more and to see the full curriculum. Its wonderful that new courses are added from time to time — gotta love continuing education.

Sure my training was a lot of work and took time, but the information was very interesting and sparked ideas for so many more things to study. Another interesting “side effect” of my training was that I saw and felt major changes in my mindset, my outlook and my overall happiness in my life. That isn’t something I could effectively fake — I experienced the positive changes that happen when people put forth the effort to study, learn and grow. I wouldn’t trade that training and knowledge for anything

Now its time to share the article that really resonated with me this morning –

While these suggestions are directed toward a business or formal situation where you need to make a great impression, think of ways these can apply to a first meeting or other gathering where you want to make a great impression on people who are there.

A job interview is very essential for both the employer and applicant since it is the basis for rejecting or accepting the applicant for the vacant job. Thus, as an applicant, it is critical that he or she be fully prepared for the job interview. Remember the employer or interviewer considers the way you dress, your credentials, your answers to his questions and your body language.

Remember that your body language can reveal the kind of person you are, your emotions, and state of mind. An employer will look for a confident and competent employee. So, you should know and learn the posture to maintain, movements that impress, and gestures to avoid during the interview.

Postures To Maintain

Never slouch! Either sitting or standing, slouching gives the impression of laziness or lack of confidence. Do not sit on the edge of the chair this indicates you are nervous or tense. Simply relax into your chair, sit with your back straight and place your hands on your lap. Crossing the legs is not recommended, but can be acceptable if you turn your body toward the interviewer.

Movements That Impress

You can show your interest and confidence through handshakes, and a great handshake can give a good first impression. There are times when initiating the handshake would make you appear overconfident. When you shake hands, make eye contact, but no longer than a few seconds. Your palm should touch the palm of your interviewer or another person you are meeting. Extend your arm and point your hand downwards.

Eye contact is important. This shows you are honest, sincere, and confident. The lack of eye contact can indicate you are lying or uncomfortable.

When responding, use of your hands. Showing your palm when explaining something indicates you are relaxed, honest, and confident. The interviewer will believe you know what you are talking about. If you want to emphasize something, you can use a clenched fist; but this is not recommended during an interview.

You can show you are listening attentively with the appropriate head movements. Nodding is a reinforcement that you understood or agreed with what he or she said. Even though there are ideas that you might like to oppose to, nodding is better than arguing. The latter could mean you wouldn’t get the job. I’m not recommend that you lie, but you may want to temper a rash reaction.

Gestures To Avoid

Avoid putting your hands into your pockets. This reinforces your nervousness, or can give your interviewer the impression you are hiding something from him, or you are uninterested to get the job. You can use hand movements when talking, but not too big or too frequently. Excessive movements can distract the interviewer when they are listening to your responses.

Another gesture to avoid is frequent eye movement. Avoiding the interviewer’s eyes will make him think you are not listening or are bored and uninterested. This can give the impression you are easily distracted, a weakness that could make you unqualified for the job.

Better Safe Than Sorry

Body language does not necessarily show what you intend or want to convey or really feel. But it is an advantage when you understand the basic gestures you to use and to avoid to give a good impression.

You can use body language as a key to success in your work. You could give a good impression, convince clients, and please your boss. In communication, only 7% are the words and the other 93% includes nonverbal cues, which include the aspects of speech and body language.

Body Language in an Interview

A job interview is usually nerve-wracking. To avoid the rejected applicants’ list, you have to impress your interviewer by being confident. Here are the gestures and body movements you must observe during a job interview.

• A firm handshake indicates confidence.
• Relax on the chair provided for you, but do not slouch.
• Slouching reflects laziness.
• Keep your heap up, and lean slightly forward.
• Place your hands on your lap, and never in your pocket.
• Putting hands-in-pocket gesture show nervousness, boredom, and dishonesty.
• Do not cross your legs. But if crossing your legs would help calm your nerves, you may do so but point your body towards the direction of the interviewer.
• During the conversation, maintain eye contact to show your interest and eagerness to listen.

Art of Animation in an Interview or Presentation

Make use of your hands to punctuate or emphasize what you are saying. You will appear stiff if your hands stay on your lap during the entire interview. Hand gestures can signify that you are honest and knowledgeable about your topic. You can do this while sitting or standing. During a presentation, move around, but walk slowly. The greatest presenters are those who can speak confidently and include the right timing of body movements and gestures.

Gestures And Movements To Avoid

The wrong gestures, done consciously or unconsciously, could give the wrong impression to your boss, co-workers, and clients. These may be the reason you are fired. So, you need to avoid the following body language.

Avoid pointing a finger at somebody, especially your boss. Even when you are angry or trying to emphasize a detail, it is a rude gesture. In meetings, refrain from showing signs of boredom and lack of interest. Signs of boredom include arms crossed over the chest, eyes on objects other than the person talking or the presentation itself, yawning, sighing, drumming the fingers on the table, or tapping your foot.

Signs That You Are Not Doing A Good Job

If you are the presenter in a meeting or an applicant in a job interview, watch the body language of your audience. Reading their actions and movements can help you be aware of how well you are doing well.

You would find out if the other person is getting bored if their attention is not on you. This is evident by the absence of eye contact. Watch their hands too.  Even if their eyes are on you, but if their hands are busy, they may be thinking of something else. See if their fingers are playing with their pen or drumming on the surface of the table. Boredom is also indicated when the people slouch back into their chair.

Signs of opposition to your ideas and opinions include when the person crosses their arms, wrinkle their forehead, and tilt their head.

However, like many other types of body language, these things can mean something totally different, depending on the person. So its important that you know how to prepare yourself for these important times at the workplace.

Just about every woman wears a bra. They are essential garments, as they provide the necessary support to prevent the eventual sagging that occurs from the loss of elasticity related to the aging process and gravity. The larger breasts you may have, whether a result of genetics or breast augmentation, the heavier they are and the faster they’ll sag if you don’t wear a bra.

As a woman, you’ve got two choices when it comes to bras: one with underwire, or one without (known as wireless). Since the 1950s, underwire bras have dominated the market. They are preferred because they are believed to provide more support, but they’ve also been connected to a number of health problems.

Clogged Milk Ducts, Breast Cancer and Bad Energy Flow

Underwire bras have been connected to a number of breast problems, although none have been scientifically proven to be a direct result of wearing this supportive garment.  Some women claim that the rigid pressure of underwire pressed against their breasts for the majority of the day results in clogged milk ducts or even breast cancer, primarily because it inhibits our circulation. However, there is no sufficient evidence to determine if this is in fact true, and even the National Cancer Institute does not support the proposed connection.

What is known, however, is that underwire bras are not recommended for women who have had breast surgery, including a mastectomy or breast augmentation. Underwire has been found to adversely affect the recovery process by promoting swelling and bruising, as well as other side effects.

And when it comes to the positive flow of energy through your body, according to acupuncturists and Traditional Chinese Medicine practitioners, underwire bras are a definite no-no. The metal contributing to the structure of the garment criss-crosses your body, interfering with healthy energy flow, thereby making you feel tired and down.

So the verdict is in: underwire bras are okay according to health experts. Just don’t wear them if you’ve had a recent breast surgery or dislike anything messing with your “chi”.

Lucy Cale is a writer for Breast Augmentation Toronto, website promoting the services at Toronto Cosmetic Surgery Institute and Board Certified Plastic Surgeon Dr. Martin Jugenburg. Dr. Jugenburg is a leader in women’s breast health in Canada.

It is possible to identify when a person is lying by merely looking at the person’ body language. There are many signs by the body, head to toe, where we can determine a person is lying. With the tips below, you can have the tools to catch your husband lying, your friend hiding a secret from you, or a person being dishonest. These tips help you understand the signs of lying and dishonesty.

Typical Signs of Lying

The signs that show a person is lying include indications of nervousness, tension, and anxiousness. You can observe these emotions by the way his eyes are moving, how he moves around, and how he reacts to your verbal attacks.

The Eyes

Eyes are very strong indicators of every emotion, including dishonesty. When the person cannot look straight at you or he is unable to prolong the eye contact, there is a big possibility he is lying. Also pay attention to the rate of his blinking. There is no need to actually count how many times he blinks you can easily spot this increase. Frequent movements of the eyes include looking at other objects and not looking at you. Pupil dilatation is also an indicator of lying.

The Hands

Some people have practiced extending their eye contact when lying, so the next best sign you should be observing are the hand gestures. A person who is lying usually has trembling hands during anxious moments. He tends to show excessive use of hand gestures while talking. Verbal attack or hiding something will prompt a person to put his hands in his pockets or cross his arms over his chest. He may also tend to fidget with something in his hands or tap hi fingers.

Verbal Signs

It can be kind of tricky to identify indications of deception through the way a person talks. You should first be familiar with how he normally speaks before judging his sincerity or honesty. Once you know the speech habits of the person, then it is less difficult to detect lying. The volume of the voice is softer than usual, but if they are in a defensive state of mind, he would usually raise his voice. There would be some speech errors, such as mispronunciation, stuttering, or stammering. He is also likely to talk faster than normal.

Other Signs Of Lying

Another sign of lying is the person touching himself when he lies. Some of these self-touching gestures include rubbing the nose, scratching the forehead, and touching the nape, elbow, or other parts of the body. Self-touching is a strong indication of discomfort and guilt.

You can also get indicators from the rest of their body. Watch whether the person is trembling, fidgeting, or shaking. These actions are often found during extreme nervousness – which could be because they are lying or for some other reason. Stiff posture with the elbows pulled to the sides and tightened muscles are a posture that reflects lying as well.

The meanings and interpretations of the different acts and signs of body posture are not always true and definitive. This is one of the risks in reading a person’s body language. You may be too quick to judge their honesty and even their whole personality. Thus, be careful in interpreting other’s gestures and body movements. You can use their body language as one indicator or whether they are lying to you and then you should continue to look for other indicators. You wouldn’t want a conflict due to miscommunication and misinterpretation.

You have just broken up with your partner, and now you are missing him or her a lot. You are desperate to get back with your ex. You may think you are the only person in this world to experience such terrible heartache, but you are not. In fact, no good will come out of getting disheartened. Many a broken relationships have been salvaged with a little enterprise. Here is a 10-step guide to getting your ex boyfriend, ex girlfriend, or even ex spouse back.

Let’s be friends:

This is one of the most effective ways of getting your ex back. Your ex will expect you to mop over him or her, be depressed, and even beg him or her to return to your life. Surprise him or her by doing no such thing. In fact, go out and socialize. Give the impression that you have completely ‘moved on’ after him or her, and do have a life of your own. This is sure to take him or her aback. While you play the ‘I am over you’ role to perfection, also let your ex know that you hold no grudges against him or her for breaking up with you. Instead, tell him or her that you should be friends due to all the good times the two of you shared together. Call your ex every once in a while in a ‘friendly’ way, and while you are doing this, also subtly mention the subjects that your ex finds interesting. Speak intelligently about them, but do not overdo it. Your seemingly carefree attitude is sure to disturb your ex enough to want you back.

Patience is the key:

Whoever said that ‘patience is the key’ sure knew what he or she was talking about. Trying to win your ex back is an onerous task which must be handled with extreme patience. For this, you will have to give your ex time to get over the break-up before you start trying to patch up with him or her. Do not call or try to see your ex too often.

Ask your ex out:

Do not be surprised. Since you are still friends with your ex, this should not be a bolt from the blue for him or her. If you want, you can make a common date of it where you invite your common friends also. In case your ex smells a rat and plays hard to get, then may be you can confide in one of your common friends and ask him or her to organize a party where the two of you can meet. When going for this party, make sure you are dressed to kill.

Turn head at all times:

Not just at a party where you have conspired to ‘run’ into your ex, you must be dressed to perfection at all times. Pull out all stops while shopping for your mission. Get a makeover if that will make you look great. A stunning hairdo is also likely to invite your ex’s attention, along with that of several others.

Talk to your ex:

Opposed to popular notion, flirting with others in front of your ex is a big no-no. This can lead to disastrous results. On the contrary, focus your attention on your ex. Talk to him or her intelligently. Do not overdo the conversation. Keep it light, friendly with no overtones of romance, and humorous.

Assert your independence:

If the two of you have been invited to a party together, make sure you bring your own mode of transportation. If the two of you work together, then also make sure that you are taking your own vehicle to work everyday. This is because if you have just broken up, you ex will not want to be seen with you. In this case, it will not augur well for you if you still look up to him or her for conveyance. Show him or her that you are an independent person.

Do not stalk:

It is natural to miss your ex, especially after you have broken up with him or her for good. But do not make yourself look pathetic by stalking your ex either by phone or in person. Let him or her be, and lead a normal peaceful life. This is will also show that you have handled the break up with the dignity expected of a sensible person.

Do not forget birthdays:

Even after you have broken up, do remember to wish your ex on his or her birthday, or any similar milestone in his or her life. This gesture will make your ex appreciate you more.

Be happy:

Break-up can be heart-breaking but it definitely is not the end of life. Take the break-up sportingly. Remain happy and cheerful, once your ex sees you in good spirits even after the break-up, he or she might realize that you have a life of your own to lead, which is not affected by his or her presence in it. He or she might want you back then.

Cultivate a new interest:

Do not misread this step. Cultivating a new interest does not mean getting into a new relationship. This means that you must pick up a new hobby or interest to keep you distracted from the heartache that is typical of a break-up.