Most people have heard of a sex surrogate – or surrogate partner therapy as its also known – but the vast majority have heard the myths and misinformation about what a surrogate really does.
In “Sex is the Least of It” Dr Tova Feder shares a wide ranging series of interviews she did with current surrogates, past surrogates, therapists who work with surrogates and others – who all have unique perspectives and experiences with surrogacy. I’d heard quite a bit about surrogates before reading this book, but the diversity and variety of the information really helped provide a well-rounded picture of what a surrogate does, why different people get into work as a surrogate, the sort of professionals who work with, train and/or refer their clients to surrogates for additional work.
I loved the title the first time I heard it — so many people have the misconception that surrogacy is all about sex. But there are so many other aspects of a successful relationship that people need to learn more about – communication, touching, talking, and so much more. These are all things that a surrogate can work with a client – to understand better and improve their skills.
I think you will also be surprised by some of the client examples the professionals share – and situation many of us probably never considered. But each of these situations involve real people that need help to have more satisfying interpersonal relationships. Funny thing – I bet many people will discover various elements of a relationship that surrogates could help them learn more about as they read this book.
I highly recommend this for anyone who is curious about the truth about what surrogates really do, and for other professionals no matter what their level of training about love, relationships, intimacy and sex. I have extensive training in many relationship topics through my Love and Relationship Coaching training – but I learned many interesting things about surrogate partner training and helped me to focus on some particular people who may be in need of coaching to improve their current relationships and also help them to find more satisfying interpersonal relationships in the future. And, isn’t that something we would all like to see in our lives?